What is it with the older generations and their comments?? - August 2024 Babies | Forums | What to Expect (2024)

I get it! I've also had multiple strangers ask if I was having twins 🙄 and has more than one person trying to give me extremely unsolicited and outdated "advice". And this is my second child, like I have done this before, thanks.

I've got a few phrases in my back pocket for when anyone gets particularly rude or out of line with their comments. Usually it's something like "thanks but mind your own uterus, because mine isn't any of your business".

My mom is like that. I’ve accepted over time that it’s her way of trying to connect with me. Her parents were critical of her and I think it’s what she’s used to. She just makes random comments. I try not to read into it or let it get to me. But it took years of therapy to get to this point. I’ve also learned to set boundaries.

As for people asking if I having twins, I just ignore them. Many times, they are well meaning.

Sorry you’re having a rough time!

The older generation does say their fair share of inappropriate comments, but I’ve had 2 people my own age say wildly inappropriate things to me, and one is a mom herself!

A coworker asked me if I was sure I wasn’t having twins when comparing me to another pregnant coworker (her first baby, my second). And then just this weekend, my friend who is also a mom told me my belly looked way bigger than 30 weeks. I was like girl you should know better!!!!

my dad is a boomer and he's been making comments about what color my baby will come out......my husband is mixed and for some reason once a week my dad just has to make a comment about skin tone.

I wish people would stfu and not comment on pregnancy unless it's a positive thing.

Had an older friend that said "oh wow you're like so pregnant". Not even sure what that means, like yes sure "I know I am pregnant thank you very much".

Like people just word vomit without actually thinking of it's appropriate or add any value to either of our lives.

Ugh, so over useless comments.

I’ve had a lot of random people, even young ones, make comments on my size too and ask if I’m having twins. Also had a MALE include there’s no way I’m making it to august with my size. ��

I saw a video the other day of a woman who hit 36 weeks and every time someone would ask her due date she would say, “today.” and the shock on their face would end the conversation. lol.

My mom & MIL done some of the same stuff you’re talking about and it was so annoying! It did eventually stop once baby got here. It’s harder because you do live with your mom and it sounds like you want to be at least somewhat respectful and grateful of that. She just obviously doesn’t know because it’s been a while.